Dealing with The Death of a Family Member

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Dealing with The Death of a Family Member

Post by Spike » 12th Dec, '12, 19:39

One of my clients has a close relative with terminal cancer and has asked me if I can recommend a book that might give advice on how to cope with the death of a loved one, especially when you know it's going to happen soon. I've never read such a book but know there are some out there. Has anyone read a book like this or can make a recommendation?
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Re: Dealing with The Death of a Family Member

Post by Tas » 12th Dec, '12, 20:03

I found one that was excellent regarding cancer survivors, very straight talking and not patronising, talks about anger in a way that found very helpful for empathy. But not sure it's quite the right thing here. Another not the right thing here maybe, but first thought was The Art of Happiness, it's a read once only sort of book, but the concepts around acceptance are quite useful tools for dealing with a number of things. Would suggest you scan over first before suggesting though.
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Re: Dealing with The Death of a Family Member

Post by expat yorkshire » 12th Dec, '12, 23:58

When did you last see your father ?
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Wonderful book ..positive and uplifting

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Re: Dealing with The Death of a Family Member

Post by Lili Von Shtupp » 13th Dec, '12, 00:27

Spike, you can look at books by Stephen Levine and Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, probably the most renowned experts on death and dying. There are lots of titles by both to browse.
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Re: Dealing with The Death of a Family Member

Post by Joseph27 » 13th Dec, '12, 07:11

I got a lot of comfort once from CS Lewis' 'A Grief Observed'.... it was a journey out of the initial mayhem of his wife's death.
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Re: Dealing with The Death of a Family Member

Post by Spike » 13th Dec, '12, 09:25

Thanks all. I'll take a look at those and recommend them to my client.
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Re: Dealing with The Death of a Family Member

Post by Fat Bob » 16th Dec, '12, 09:55

I personally wouldn't turn to a book. Death is a natural thing and people should rejoice in their loved ones life. Unfortunately not everyone has the self-belief to help them through such a period, but if one can draw that strength it shows great character and should be what the deceased wanted.

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Re: Dealing with The Death of a Family Member

Post by Dinosaur » 26th Dec, '12, 17:35

Agree with Fat Bob - good post.

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Re: Dealing with The Death of a Family Member

Post by Duck » 29th Dec, '12, 10:20

The book I was recommended is 'Graceful endings' by Linda Popov, one of the founders of the Virtues Project. She lost her brother John to cancer and was looking after him for about a year.

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Re: Dealing with The Death of a Family Member

Post by Bender » 29th Dec, '12, 12:24

Agree with FB 100%.
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