Dealing with The Death of a Family Member

Spike · Post by **Spike** » 12th Dec, '12, 19:39

One of my clients has a close relative with terminal cancer and has asked me if I can recommend a book that might give advice on how to cope with the death of a loved one, especially when you know it's going to happen soon. I've never read such a book but know there are some out there. Has anyone read a book like this or can make a recommendation?

Tas · Post by **Tas** » 12th Dec, '12, 20:03

I found one that was excellent regarding cancer survivors, very straight talking and not patronising, talks about anger in a way that found very helpful for empathy. But not sure it's quite the right thing here. Another not the right thing here maybe, but first thought was The Art of Happiness, it's a read once only sort of book, but the concepts around acceptance are quite useful tools for dealing with a number of things. Would suggest you scan over first before suggesting though.

expat yorkshire · Post by **expat yorkshire** » 12th Dec, '12, 23:58

When did you last see your father ?
Blake morrison

Wonderful book ..positive and uplifting

Lili Von Shtupp · Post by **Lili Von Shtupp** » 13th Dec, '12, 00:27

Spike, you can look at books by Stephen Levine and Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, probably the most renowned experts on death and dying. There are lots of titles by both to browse.

Joseph27 · Post by **Joseph27** » 13th Dec, '12, 07:11

I got a lot of comfort once from CS Lewis' 'A Grief Observed'.... it was a journey out of the initial mayhem of his wife's death.

Spike · Post by **Spike** » 13th Dec, '12, 09:25

Thanks all. I'll take a look at those and recommend them to my client.

Fat Bob · Post by **Fat Bob** » 16th Dec, '12, 09:55

I personally wouldn't turn to a book. Death is a natural thing and people should rejoice in their loved ones life. Unfortunately not everyone has the self-belief to help them through such a period, but if one can draw that strength it shows great character and should be what the deceased wanted.

Tears and sadness will be involved, but don't let it take over your life for more than is required.

Dinosaur · Post by **Dinosaur** » 26th Dec, '12, 17:35

Agree with Fat Bob - good post.

Duck · Post by **Duck** » 29th Dec, '12, 10:20

The book I was recommended is 'Graceful endings' by Linda Popov, one of the founders of the Virtues Project. She lost her brother John to cancer and was looking after him for about a year.

http://gracefulendings.net

Bender · Post by **Bender** » 29th Dec, '12, 12:24

Agree with FB 100%.

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